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Writing a eulogy, is often one of the easiest things a person can write—and yet one of the most difficult speeches to give. In the eulogy you will be remembering someone who was very close to you and for whom you have wonderful memories. You will want to use the opportunity to celebrate their accomplishments and acknowledge their struggles. Because this type of speech is so personal, you should have plenty of material and may find this process very gratifying and a healing part of your grieving process.

In the eulogy include:

• A life history of the person who has died, hitting the high points of accomplishments
• Details about their relationships with family and friends
• Mention of passions and interests, including careers and hobbies.
• Your favorite memories of the deceased
• Any favorite poems, songs, quotes or scripture, (a nice way to end the speech too).

1. Remember that the eulogy is about a person you love.
   Writing and delivering a eulogy is truly an honor. You are remembering the grace, humor, humility, and accomplishments of your loved one and sharing it with the other people in their life. Your words help others think of the great memories they have as well.
2. Insert your own memories.

Think about the deceased and the relationship you had with them. What did you go together? What is particularly humorous or touching? What you will miss the most?

1. Insert the memories of others.
   Talk to the people the deceased knew and ask how they touched their lives. Include these personal stories and show how much your loved one meant to the many people they spent time with over the years
2. Don’t be afraid to keep it short.
   It is better to hit on the most important memories and essence of who your loved one was, than have a long in-depth eulogy. However, if you are comfortable speaking and the situation merits it, you can elaborate a bit. Just be conscious of your audience and the schedule for the day.
3. Emotion is good.
   Unlike other speeches, when you give a eulogy it is OK to cry. Don’t be afraid to show emotion if it comes to you, just be prepared with water at the podium, a tissue and a person designated ahead of time to take over, should you be unable to continue.

The most touching and meaningful eulogies are written from the heart, and should be an emotional experience. A eulogy does not have to be perfect, and should cause emotions to rise to the top. Remember, whatever you write and deliver will be appreciated by the people in attendance.